Los Angeles dating is different from dating in any other place in the world. I live in L. Dating Syndrome. Guys and girls in Los Angeles look past the date in front of them thinking someone better is just beyond their reach and that's appealing. For guys, the fantasy of the perfect woman and thinking that even at 50 years old, they will land a 20 year old, makes them swinging dicks.
The bottom line is that girls in L. Guys put so little effort in, and girls are so used to it, that when a guy steps up and texts back and actually makes plans, it sometimes scares girls off.
Women have been conditioned to think a guy is normal if they never hear from them. I had a guy tell me we were in an exclusive relationship after 2 dates and then not hearing from him for over a month. He was confused when I texted him that I found a good guy and wished him luck, he said I cheated on him. We see that the guy we are talking to and making plans to take things a little further, like having sex, is always on the dating apps.
Like kids in a candy store, they have become accustomed to shopping endlessly with no real intentions to buy. I know this because while I was writing my book and doing research on the apps, I saw guys who I was really interested in on the apps nonstop. My guy friends tell me that the girls here are flaky, dishonest, unfocused, uninteresting and are better at taking a sexy instagram than having an intelligent conversation.
He also complains that the girls are always heavier in person than in their pictures and that he has a hard time connecting to the crazy girls here. I have had to cancel a few dates because of things that came up last minute and I feel terrible about it. The next four years will change America forever. But HuffPost won't back down when it comes to providing free and impartial journalism.
